Gather around everybody. I have something to tell you.
Consider it a public service announcement … if you will.
Perhaps because of COVID and lockdowns and the seemingly never-ending need to negotiate with yourself over the safety of everything you do, even if you’re fortunate enough to have not been sick, your life right now feels somewhere between not being exactly what you want and pretty crappy.
Maybe you’re trying to keep a toddler happy like Claire, or trying to keep your kids’ schooling sorted like Pea Green or trying to teach remotely while everything else is going on in the house like Lindsay.
Or maybe you’re doing something else, or can’t do anything, but whatever challenge you’re facing right now, it still sucks, and maybe it’s making you crabby.
It’s OK. Really, it is.
I save various articles for various reasons that involve wanting to read them later or write about them or have them for future reference, and I remembered an article by Jill Filipovic that started “Are you losing your mind in quarantine? Because I am losing my mind in quarantine.”
She wrote it at the end of April.
As in almost-nine-months-ago April. As in things-had-been-really-shut-down-for-only-about-six-weeks April.
Now, we’re in the middle of winter, which is the worst season, anyway. (It is … don’t argue with me.) And in what appears to be the best-case scenario, we’re still many months away from “normal.”
Which means, among other things, that we’re going to start missing things for the second time soon.
My birthday’s at the end of May; last year, we did it with my parents over video on Facebook. Maybe they’ll be vaccinated by then? Maybe we’ll do what we did for my mother’s birthday in October, which was meet up with my parents and my brother for lunch outside?
(Regarding vaccinations, after I wrote about them last week, New York changed the minimum age to sign up to 65, so between websites and the local hospital, my mother signed up my father and grandmother, even though it’s currently just a waiting list. Also, friends who work in education and medicine told me they had gotten shots or were scheduled to. All good news.)
Plus, even as people are getting sick and dying at the rate of thousands per day and even healthy people’s lives being disrupted in so many ways, there are those who still refuse to #$*%ing get it.
Yes, there is reason for optimism, even for someone like me who generally has no use for it. The quickness of the vaccine being developed has been miraculous, and even if it seems like the end of the tunnel never gets closer, we are going to reach the light.
But even with the understanding that this won’t last forever and the perspective to realize there are millions of people who only wish they could have whatever problems we’re feeling right now, as long as you’re not using it as an excuse to hurt anyone else (and hopefully not making everyone around you miserable), it’s OK to feel like crap about what’s going on right now.
Because you’re human.
WHAT I WROTE
The entire week, I either couldn’t come up with anything to write, or had an inkling but couldn’t figure out where to go with it.
Until late Friday night.
It’s about thinking the trail is gone, until you discover something wonderful and unexpected.
And then, of course, I came up with an epic idea as I was sleeping yesterday morning. I hope to have that one out soon.
STUFF I READ
Like all of us, Samantha’s living through this pandemic. Unlike (I assume) most of us, she’s doing it as a cancer survivor.
The latest Lessons in Loss guest post on Smelly Socks and Garden Peas is from Michelle O.. It’s about losing her hair, and I think it might be my favorite of the bunch.
Alexia’s daughter hit her right in the feels … and not in a good way.
Vee won a battle Vee was always going to win.
Renata found a way to search for jobs that helped her find the one she wanted.
Savannah’s walks are inspiring haikus.
Austin (along with Aaron and Holly) are glad it’s over.
Michelle shares more of her weird dreams.
Becky redid her room. It looks really nice.
Rosie has a short attention span, but she’s working on it.
Jamie loves group fitness classes. Even though she doesn’t say it, we know it’s because I’m in one of the ones she teaches. (I am, however, in three of the photos.)
Paul has a new game for everyone to play.
Zoe is not a fan of dating with the difficulty turned up.
TWEETS I LIKED
I love when I get cultural references! Since most of them seem to be from “Game of Thrones,” it doesn’t happen much.
Do “piggybacking” next.
I still don’t know how him killing himself didn’t make a lot of people rethink a lot of things, but sometimes brains need to be scrambled for our entertainment, right?
”Enjoy it while it lasts.”
There’s sexy, and then there’s left-handed sexy.
This has a lot of potential. Would they do it all over again knowing the annoying things about their spouses from when they were alive? Did the one who died first meet someone else?