“I’d rather lose for what I am than win for what I ain’t,” Kacey Musgraves, “Pageant Material”
First of all, Kacey Musgraves is going alongside Sara Bareilles in the “How Did I Not Know They Were So Good?” club. My wife got me a couple of her CDs for Valentine’s Day because we have tickets to see her in concert, and she knows I don’t like going to concerts when I’m not that familiar with the performer’s music.
If there’s still someone out there who doesn’t know … take it from me, she’s really good.
I won’t claim that I had everything figured out as a teenager — I won’t say that now in my mid-40s — but I did have the good sense to realize that I wasn’t for everybody and that as long as I had my friends, I’d be OK.
Did I want to be more popular? Of course, who doesn’t? But I wasn’t, at least not among the “cool kids” — mostly because I wasn’t cool.
The good thing about that realization is that I didn’t get suckered in to changing who I was to make the popular kids like me, which I saw happen more than once.
It’s also why I wasn’t a fan of fraternity and sorority pledging when I was in college. Why should anyone have to look foolish (and that’s what we saw in public) just to be part of a group?
There’s a reason why “I’d rather be right than popular” is part of my philosophy on life. If sucking up to others is what it takes to make friends, no thanks.
Better to lose for what you are than win for what you ain’t.